What are your favorite memories? The first that come to mind for me are of parties or camping or hiking. What first comes to mind for you? Moments with loved ones? Moments spent alone? How did you feel in those moments? Happy? Accomplished? Strong? Loved?

I have heard people say when they are stressed, they go to their “happy place.” This, honestly, always seemed ridiculous to me. How could a memory or imagination ease stress?

I discovered that, for me, there is a different type of memory that actually does help me relax. It is a kind of sensory memory. I have memories that I would never have considered to be “favorite memories” or even “favorite places.” But something about these memories relaxes my muscles, transports me in a way.

One example is from my childhood. I remember lying in my bed on summer evenings. It would be hot and the window would be open. I can remember the sound of bugs outside and the sound of the neighbor’s air conditioner running. I can recall those sounds so clearly and I can feel my muscles relax.

Another memory that relaxes me is from a hike years ago. I was walking in the mountains in southern California. I dropped my backpack and leaned against it on the ground under a tree. I can recall the feel of the warm sun, the smell of the sandy dirt and pines, and the sounds of the stillness in the air and occasional breeze. Again, I feel my muscles relax and a peacefulness settle in.

So, I think that if you have trouble going to your “happy place,” try thinking of an unexpected happy place. Try to remember a moment that was peaceful. One that brings to mind sensory memories.

Please share. Where have your happy places been? What are your peaceful moments?