Photo of the Week: How to Build Community. I found this postcard in a little shop in New Mexico. I do not usually buy decorations with words, but this one caught my attention. The ideas for building community are unique. I think, if done with intention, these ideas really could be effective.

We are in the holiday season. This is a time that can be difficult for people–people who have painful memories, lack connection, or feel overwhelmed. This time can feel very pressured with the high expectations that can surround us.

Along with boundaries, which I wrote of in another blog post, a person needs connection. If this time of year is difficult for you, building new connections with others and within yourself can be helpful. For example, as the card suggests, “Open your shades,” literally and figuratively. This is a call to be open to new experience, and to show that openness to others. Draw back your curtains to let in light, and also open your eyes and give even the hint of a smile to others, rather than being lost in thought with downcast eyes. This may sound simple, but can seem scary. Forming connections can make a person feel vulnerable. Remember that you can take your time in building connections.

Another way of building connections at this time is within yourself. For example, slow down. Notice what is around you. Let yourself appreciate that the chair near you has a beautiful color. Or remember that that piece of art was a gift from someone who cares for you. You may not be able to feel appreciation immediately, but taking the time to notice what is around you can bring you closer to experiencing your own connection to joy.

Stepping out and forming community can be hard. Be gentle with yourself and appreciate your efforts. Even a new thought is a step forward, it is movement toward forming the connections we all need.

How have you learned to reach out, or to go within to form a better relationship with yourself?